10 Mindsets for Deliberate Practice:

1. Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed. Repeat silently, "As long as I don't feel embarrassed, others will." Stay calm and composed—everyone has experienced moments like this.
2. Be confident. People who lack confidence seem timid; confident people are the most charming.
3. Don't seek victory through words. It's okay to argue logically, but obsessing over winning debates can make you seem unhumble and easily emotional.
4. Don't let negative emotions linger overnight. "Things won't defeat you, but emotions can." When bad feelings arise, focus on doing one thing, tell yourself it's temporary and will pass. Take action to fight it.
5. Let go of vanity. When you're insecure, you tend to cover yourself with other things. When you want to show vanity, remind yourself: Be honest and confident. Extreme honesty is invincible.
6. Don't waste time on people or things that aren't worth it. When encountering a troll, simply say "You're right," and then walk away. The power of stupidity is influencing others and lowering their IQ.
7. Practice deep work. The power of focus. Control your urge to check your phone and concentrate on challenging, demanding tasks.
8. Be a long-term thinker. Worthwhile things require sowing, fertilizing, and watering. Focus on tasks in March and April, patiently waiting for their fruition in August and September.
9. When socializing, don't position yourself as someone being judged. Don't worry too much about stronger people; acknowledging their strengths doesn't mean denying yourself.
10. Restrain your empathy. High empathy can easily lead to people-pleasing tendencies.
These mindsets are not innate but the result of deliberate practice. From silently reciting embarrassing mantras, to reminding yourself to be honest and confident, to focusing on deep work—each is reinforced repeatedly in specific scenarios until it becomes instinctive.