The principles of dealing with people told to children by political and business elites,
Every sentence is a classic
1、
The three-step gift-giving ritual: First step: Give fruit and casually ask, “Do you think I meet this condition?” Second step: Give cigarettes and alcohol,
Say, “You’ve gone to trouble,”
Whether it works or not doesn’t matter.
Third step: Give money,
Say, “Just a token of appreciation,”
No success, no respect,
No repeat if not.
Once these three steps are done,
The matter is almost settled,
If you jump straight to the third step,
Won’t they refuse?
2、
Compliment in public,
Criticize privately.
Public praise can amplify the effect,
While criticism should be done behind closed doors,
Giving face to others,
Is leaving a way out for yourself.
In dealing with people,
Leave a little softness in words,
Leave a little fullness in matters,
Leave warmth in people,
Only then can you be comfortable and at ease.
3、
How to unconsciously defeat competitors? Be a little sweeter,
A little more timely,
A little better at technical skills,
A little better connected,
Dress a little better,
Be sincerely attentive,
Each point exceeds others by 5%,
Forming a momentum,
Making you the client’s best choice,
Unknowingly, you’ll eliminate your opponents.
4、
Don’t expose the other person’s purpose. Not revealing is an adult’s unspoken rule. For high-level people,
Don’t casually reveal their intentions,
Because in their planning and layout,
They don’t need you to guess.
Saying the wrong thing is awkward,
Getting it right makes you look too smart,
And you won’t feel at ease.
5、
Default rules of social networks. Give you a chance to perform,
Within the bounds of public order and morals,
You must do your best,
Even if it’s forceful, to make it happen.
Because only then,
Will you have second, third,
Even tenth opportunities.
And each time, bigger than before,
Plus additional peripheral opportunities keep emerging.
6、
The logical mindset for cooperation. First, tell others what value you bring,
What benefits you can offer.
Don’t just boast about how great you are,
No one cares about that.
Everyone only cares about what you can do for me,
If you have value, others will naturally want to connect with you.
Cooperate by giving the other person an extra point or two of benefit,
Next time, if the business is successful,
Share some benefits with the person who introduced the deal,
Don’t swallow it all at once,
Otherwise, you won’t have a place next time.
7、
How to chat more comfortably with others? Let the other person finish speaking,
Don’t interrupt or constantly deny others,
Habitual rebutting makes it hard to talk,
Look into their eyes,
Don’t drift around,
Don’t play on your phone while they’re talking,
It’s impolite. For more confident matters,
You should also speak with some flexibility,
Leave room for yourself,
Leave surprises for others.
8、
How to buy things? Cheap items,
Buy from acquaintances’ shops,
Can build rapport; expensive items,
Buy from strangers’ shops,
Convenient for bargaining.
Never get it mixed up.
9、
When others praise you, turn the compliment back to them,
This can earn recognition for yourself,
And avoid jealousy.
For example,
Once Huang Bo appeared on Lu Yu’s show. Lu Yu said, “You’re very popular now!” Huang Bo replied, “Of course, I can sit here chatting with Lu Yu.”
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The political and business elites' advice to their children on how to behave and conduct themselves, every sentence a classic
The principles of dealing with people told to children by political and business elites,
Every sentence is a classic
1、
The three-step gift-giving ritual: First step: Give fruit and casually ask, “Do you think I meet this condition?” Second step: Give cigarettes and alcohol,
Say, “You’ve gone to trouble,”
Whether it works or not doesn’t matter.
Third step: Give money,
Say, “Just a token of appreciation,”
No success, no respect,
No repeat if not.
Once these three steps are done,
The matter is almost settled,
If you jump straight to the third step,
Won’t they refuse?
2、
Compliment in public,
Criticize privately.
Public praise can amplify the effect,
While criticism should be done behind closed doors,
Giving face to others,
Is leaving a way out for yourself.
In dealing with people,
Leave a little softness in words,
Leave a little fullness in matters,
Leave warmth in people,
Only then can you be comfortable and at ease.
3、
How to unconsciously defeat competitors? Be a little sweeter,
A little more timely,
A little better at technical skills,
A little better connected,
Dress a little better,
Be sincerely attentive,
Each point exceeds others by 5%,
Forming a momentum,
Making you the client’s best choice,
Unknowingly, you’ll eliminate your opponents.
4、
Don’t expose the other person’s purpose. Not revealing is an adult’s unspoken rule. For high-level people,
Don’t casually reveal their intentions,
Because in their planning and layout,
They don’t need you to guess.
Saying the wrong thing is awkward,
Getting it right makes you look too smart,
And you won’t feel at ease.
5、
Default rules of social networks. Give you a chance to perform,
Within the bounds of public order and morals,
You must do your best,
Even if it’s forceful, to make it happen.
Because only then,
Will you have second, third,
Even tenth opportunities.
And each time, bigger than before,
Plus additional peripheral opportunities keep emerging.
6、
The logical mindset for cooperation. First, tell others what value you bring,
What benefits you can offer.
Don’t just boast about how great you are,
No one cares about that.
Everyone only cares about what you can do for me,
If you have value, others will naturally want to connect with you.
Cooperate by giving the other person an extra point or two of benefit,
Next time, if the business is successful,
Share some benefits with the person who introduced the deal,
Don’t swallow it all at once,
Otherwise, you won’t have a place next time.
7、
How to chat more comfortably with others? Let the other person finish speaking,
Don’t interrupt or constantly deny others,
Habitual rebutting makes it hard to talk,
Look into their eyes,
Don’t drift around,
Don’t play on your phone while they’re talking,
It’s impolite. For more confident matters,
You should also speak with some flexibility,
Leave room for yourself,
Leave surprises for others.
8、
How to buy things? Cheap items,
Buy from acquaintances’ shops,
Can build rapport; expensive items,
Buy from strangers’ shops,
Convenient for bargaining.
Never get it mixed up.
9、
When others praise you, turn the compliment back to them,
This can earn recognition for yourself,
And avoid jealousy.
For example,
Once Huang Bo appeared on Lu Yu’s show. Lu Yu said, “You’re very popular now!” Huang Bo replied, “Of course, I can sit here chatting with Lu Yu.”
Everyone immediately felt happy.