The word "trauma" is often misused. Using "trauma" to describe something focuses on the feelings and emotions at the time. This concept is frequently used in a broad sense, to the point that many times when I see the word "trauma," I can't actually identify the real trauma involved. Many experiences described as "trauma" are actually opportunities for growth and learning. Reflecting rationally is often a better approach than emotional rumination. The use of "trauma" to justify placing oneself in the victim position can lead to self-pity and sympathetic resonance, which in turn hinders the development of subjectivity. Being wronged is just being wronged; there is no good or bad, just facts, and all are opportunities to learn.